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You Gotta Have Faith In Something… So What’s It Gonna Be ?

Skipping around through my bible, I came across some verses that got me thinking…

Many of us are familiar with the scripture from Hebrews 12:2   …Jesus, the author and the finisher of our faith,
and then I read in Acts 3:15, Peter saying …You killed the author of life, but God raised him from the dead… 
and so it made me think, that in some ways, faith is life.

Stay with me a minute here…
Whatever we place our faith in, becomes essentially, what we base our life on – what we live for. You may not have thought of it this way, but really, we choose  what to place our faith in, even if we think we don’t have  ‘faith’.

If it’s money and possessions that we rely on to satisfy us,  we go down the path of materialism. If it’s a relationship with someone,  our happiness and joy hangs on the every word, action and approval of  that person, or those we love, and so then our chance of offense is great. If we place our faith in our work, what we do for a living, then our satisfaction hinges on our daily success on the job,  in whatever expectations our boss or co-workers have placed on us, or that next raise, that next promotion.

Sometimes, worse yet, we simply place our faith in ourselves. We don’t need any help, we think    I got this, I don’t need anyone, I can handle it.      If our faith is in ourselves, we live in fear.  Fear of failure, fear of disappointment, fear of what others think of us and of everything  we do.

Even when it is our family that is our identity and our highest priority,  and what we place our faith in, that can be a misplaced level of importance, too.

But… if we place our faith in God, and His promises, our life resides more in the spirit realm.  We can begin to see ourselves the way God sees us, and that our hope is not in the things of this world, but in what God has planned for us.  Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Heb 11:1 

We can then truly live as though we are in this world, but not of it. That we are simply passing through.  Maybe then our focus can be – Will the world be a better place because I was here? Have I left my little corner of the planet better off than I found it? Has anyone else’s life benefited because I was here?

Maybe some food for thought as we enter 2018.

Wishing you all a Happy, Healthy, Blessed New Year!

We’re All On A Mission

Just exited a Lutheran church’s parking lot -after missing my destination and  doing a turn around-  and I noticed something that struck me.  As I was leaving the lot to go onto the main street, there was a sign that said

You Are Now
The Mission Field

I.  Love That!
Some people leave church after Sunday morning service and think, ‘Okay, that’s done.  Check it off the to-do list.’   I used to.  I’d check that  ‘go to church’  box and feel I was done with my religious requirement for the week. 

I know better now, that  church attendance is not the whole of our Christian life,  but that sign made me think;  you know,  in reality,  it’s just about the opposite.  We go to church to worship God and to encourage,  fellowship and pray  with other Christians. But our work as a Christian is  -for the most part-  everywhere else but church.  With the exception of pastors, worship leaders, and others whose calling is working directly in ministry.  For most of us, church should be  the jumping off point to a real life of service, to  accomplishing God’s  purpose.


I’ve since  learned that being a Christian is not about what you do in church. Not very much, anyway. If you look at Christianity as “Love God, Love Others” ,  then being in church on Sunday is just a small part of the first half of that equation; the Loving God part.  But you’re a Christian every day of the week.  You’re a Christian in the things that you do and say outside of church.   And in the  way that you choose to spend your time,  and the sacrifices you are willing to make for others…

 I used to think I was doing God a favor by going to church.  But it’s the other way around. 

I think we actually go to church to get filled up.  We go to church to get inspired, to get ideas about how better to serve others.  Maybe to actually rest from service a little.  To let God’s grace wash over us.  And to be refreshed. 

I saw an interview with Jeff Foxworthy, a stand up comic, about serving those in need in your community. He said  ” My life is the best when I’m not the most important thing in it.”  And,   ” Once you’ve tasted purpose, you can’t be happy with just existing anymore.” (That’s a sermon in itself.)

Foxworthy talks with Andy Stanley, pastor of Northpoint church in Atlanta about his mission and what he is doing in the homeless community in Atlanta. It’s a great interview and it is worth checking out:

 So your mission field really does start when you leave church.
Sunday afternoon does not have to be the end of your spirituality for the week!

It’s just the beginning.






What a fantastic week it’s been. Who doesn’t love this time of year?

Let’s see…we have Friendsgiving – the day before Thanksgiving, when friends in from out of town get together and catch up with their old crew. There’s Thanksgiving, of course – with food, family, fun, and more food (who’s not a fan of that?)

Then we have Small Business Saturday – when we support and honor the hard-working people at family owned businesses and mom and pop shops. By giving them our business we are helping to keep jobs and  dollars in our own community.  And finally we have Give Back Tuesday, when we are encouraged to count our blessings and share what we have been so graciously given by God with those who are in need, through donations to our favorite charities.

Grateful Every Day

This whole week was about being grateful, and recognizing your blessings. I heard the term “Thanks-living” used to remind us-especially followers of Christ- that every day, all year long, is a good time to be thankful to God.  I couldn’t agree more!

In the midst of it all,  I had the chance to get out of the house one day this week to run errands and go to an appointment, and I was so overcome by gratitude!   When someone does their work in  an exceptional way, with such integrity and sincerity, I am nearly brought to tears of gratitude and admiration for them.  I find it to be one of the best ways to live out our Christianity.   It was one of those great mornings where everything went better than expected.

First, I received exceptional physical therapy and felt fantastic afterwards, and had a friendly chat with with the new PT tech at my clinic. She was so sweet, I left smiling. That was followed by a great visit to the Rochester  post office. Contrary to what many  think about going to the post office, the downtown Rochester location is terrific. With fast, friendly service and helpful staff, they are the best.  And everyone I encountered there just seemed to be in a good mood, smiling, holding the door open for each other, making small talk.

Then there was the guy at the gas station who pumps my gas  (yes, you can still get full service at  a gas station!  In downtown Rochester, at any rate).   He is a true sweetheart and just a really nice, earnest guy who works with  diligence and kindness.

Then, I encountered the women at the Rochester library gift shop… so, so friendly and helpful!  Very sweet and just kind beyond necessity. Finally,  I got a fantastic car wash in Lake Orion from guys who really seem to enjoy their job and were super nice and positive about it.

It’s the Little Things…

I can’t tell you what it means to me to just go out into the community and have so many uplifting experiences all at once. I’m tearing up thinking about it.  And about  how it really is the little things that make your day great.

It’s just that easy to make someone’s day, incidentally.  Every day we have the power to build someone up or tear them down.  “Be kinder than is necessary” is a very cool maxim that has resurfaced recently.  So good!

Just grateful to be part of such a stellar community…  


What if we lived in a constant state of gratitude and service?

I know we all go through tough times and there are some days or even seasons of our lives where it doesn’t feel like we have anything to be grateful for.  But if you’re willing to open your heart and really examine the life that you’re living, you will find that every one of us has something to be grateful for.

Gratitude is a powerful emotion. It’s hard to walk around depressed when you are counting your blessings.  And on the bad days, rather than dwell on what is going wrong, maybe think of someone who is struggling more than you are, and needs your help. There is nothing like serving others to get your mind off of your own problems.


What little, seemingly inconsequential, things are you grateful for that would be easy to take for granted?





Is Your Prayer Drawing People To God, or Pushing Them Away?

Prayer Unites, Prayer Divides

Some Christians wield prayer like a weapon. I had a friend who liked to pray before every meal. At the coffee shop, at lunch out at a restaurant, with a group of Christians or non Christians, didn’t matter. I didn’t really begrudge her this, though I was not much of a Christian at the time, but one of our common friends, also a believer, got sooo frustrated with this behavior!

Thing is, Sister Super Christian would always wait til someone took a bite of food to say “hey, how about if we pray first?” Thus embarrassing and annoying the diner with her mouth full of food. This one woman had this happen to her one too many times and  threw her fork down and folded her hands, definitely Not in a prayerful way.

It’s kind of funny now, but it really illustrates how we can make prayer something that comes between even fellow Christians, let alone non believers.

And then there’s the kind of prayer that I experienced last Wednesday and again yesterday. A group of humble, servants of God, praying sincere and fervent prayers with a faith that is palpable, and fills the room. I will say, there is nothing more beautiful than being a part of that. Feeling the Holy Spirit’s presence and love, with people praying for you…it’s indescribable and powerful. When we unite in prayer for a common purpose,  it’s like the very air in the room changes.

Closer to God Through Prayer

Praying together can bring us closer as brothers and sisters in Christ, but also is vital to building a close, intimate relationship with God.

I never feel nearer to God than when I am praying, honestly and openly, from my heart. To a God who is always there, always listening, always straining to hear what we have to pray. And hoping we will take just a minute to listen to what He has to say back to us. We don’t always think of prayer as a two-way street, but if what you want with God is a relationship, not just a sounding board, then listening needs to be part of the equation.

It’s great to have a friend who listens to you, but if you never listen to them, the relationship can only go so far. It’s really no different with God.  We start out turning to God with our laundry list of complaints, requests and laments –  pleading for help. And that’s an okay place to start.  I think many, if not most of us, start our faith journey this way.

But going deeper in relationship with God necessitates that you give Him a chance to speak into your situation. I mean, it’s what we want, right?  Ultimately, anyway.  I don’t think, deep down, we really just want to pray and have everything  ‘magically’  made right in our life, with no real sense of knowing God better or feeling closer to him.  Listening for God’s response after we pray can make all the difference!

For some great ideas on different ways to pray check out these websites and

What If God Was One of Us?


Fully God, Fully Human

When Jesus heard what had happened, he withdrew by boat privately to a solitary place. Mt 14:13

Jesus is told by John the Baptist’s friends that he has been beheaded in a bizarre and surreal scene at Herod’s birthday party. (Check out Matthew 14:3-12 here   )

 When Jesus hears this news, he goes to the mountainside to pray. Some think he left to avoid a similar fate by Herod’s men. Some say he retreated to pray to his Father;  about what to do next, or perhaps concerning the care of his weary apostles, or even about  feeding  the 5000 disciples who had followed him.

We don’t actually know what he consulted the Father about, we are not told in scripture. But we do know that Jesus was a compassionate, caring man, every bit as human as you and me. I like to think he may have been praying out of sadness and grief over the loss of his cousin, his friend, the man who heralded his coming, John the Baptizer.

If we read too quickly, it doesn’t even occur to us that Jesus might pause to grieve. We sort of think he should just accept the death of this important person in his life and move on.  Because we see the story in context of the big picture. And in hindsight, it seems like a fairly small point in the story.

But imagine it!  A friend, a supporter, a disciple being murdered in this horrific way. Of course he must have grieved! Jesus was fully human. He lived like us,  he felt like us,  he related like us.  When the bible says ‘fully human’ it means  Fully.  Human.

Jesus was upset,  bewildered, distraught and sad – most likely.  We don’t know what he felt, but those are all likely because he was fully human.  We see him display very human emotions of compassion, love, and even anger at various times in his ministry.

Fully Human in the Garden

We see him in the garden of Gethsemane, nearing the end of his life on earth, where Jesus asks his Father to save him.  Just as we would have done. He knows what’s coming. He knows he has to go through this terrible thing  that will end his life.  It has to be done.   It was part of the plan and  Jesus  knew it.  Anticipated it.  Agreed to it.

But at the last moment – he asked for a reprieve. He sweated blood.  He agonized.  He cried out.

Fully Human.

Of course, ultimately, he accepted that which was the agreed upon plan all along. Where would we be if he hadn’t?

But we forget that he was fully human.  We forget that what Jesus went through was as hard for him as it would have been for us.  We think it was easy for him because he was fully God too.  

But in the dichotomy of fully God and fully human, they don’t cancel each other out. They magnify the Being of Christ.

Being God didn’t make it any easier for him to be human, than it is for us.  What Jesus went through, the temptation he experienced, the isolation he felt, the fear, the loneliness…he struggled through it all so he could have the perspective, so he could know  what it feels like to suffer.

So that when we struggle, when we suffer, we know he can comfort us with the comfort of someone who has been there. This is our God,  communicating His great love for us.  Showing us the lengths He was willing to go for us.

You see, we’ve never been through anything that Jesus can’t relate to – that he can’t pull us through, with empathy, comfort, and understanding.

And that’s why fully human is such an important part of who Jesus was.


For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses…Heb 4:15
…rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. Ph 2:7


Should We Maybe Stop Praying So Much?

Prayer is such a comforting thing to offer, but I wonder if offering it to those struggling might be sometimes counterproductive.  I heard a Rabbi who was starting a Jewish ministry recall his first encounter with the host of a Christian ministry and TV show.

He said something like   ‘Pat, when I told you I was struggling, that things were off to a shaky start, and you told me you’d pray for me, I thought, ‘Oh great, another Christian praying for my ministry’.   The Rabbi went on to say that he was surprised and touched by Pat’s follow up phone calls, offers of help and a donation check that arrived in the mail.

I had a similar experience when I was at our local farmers’ market and two of the farmers were relaying to a few of us what a bad couple of years it had been for the crops.  Being rather new in my faith, with lots of enthusiasm, but not a lot of wisdom, I told them I would pray for them,  their crops and their livelihood. The skepticism was evident in the small smile and shrug of the blueberry lady in response to my offer of prayer.  I could see in her eyes that it meant almost nothing to her.   In light of these incidents I realized that prayer
alone doesn’t always do for the person everything God intended for us to do.
After all, we are His hands and feet!  God put that person in our path for a reason.  Prayer’s great, but back it up with some help, some agape love, expressed through service or action. DO Something!

I would almost go so far as to say  don’t  tell someone, outside the faith,  you’re going to be praying for them if you don’t plan on doing something to support that prayer and  to show that person what Christian love is all about.

Sure, go ahead and pray, but maybe do it quietly.     And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others… Mt. 6:5     We come across as insincere or fake, or all talk and no action when we constantly run around telling non-Christians that “I will pray for you.”  And then we disappear from their life, patting ourselves on the back, thinking we’ve done such a good deed.  

This actually  does a disservice to the perception of Christianity in the secular world, I believe.  We are viewed as pitiable creatures who woefully plead with an invisible God whenever something goes wrong, and that we are helpless to do anything, and vulnerable in the face of catastrophe.

Putting Prayer Into Action

But we can mobilize. Your prayers for someone battling sickness or disease may be comforting, but it doesn’t have to stop there. You can add to the prayers an offer of driving their kids to soccer practice for the next month.  Or you could make them a meal, take up a collection and pay for a house cleaning service, or get a gift card to a restaurant or even just send them an uplifting card, or check in with them regularly.

Even these small gestures mean so much when added to offers of prayer.  They are practical, tangible offers of God’s love and in so doing them, we show those outside Christianity what it means to be a Christian. It’s not just all talk and prayer.  It’s backing up the words with action, it’s letting God’s love be expressed through us in practical and helpful ways that really do make a difference. You may have heard the phrase ‘faith without works is dead’.   In the bible, James writes: Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food. If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it? Jas 2:15-16
What good, indeed?

So, back to my initial question : Should we stop praying so much?
Of course not. Prayer is the backbone of our relationship with God. Perhaps, though, we should stop talking about praying so much and just do it.  And throw in a helpful, practical act of kindness for good measure.

For some great suggestions  go to 

Good Guys vs. Bad Guys

Star Wars…Lord of the Rings…Harry Potter…Rocky…DC Comics…XMen…Indiana Jones…Karate Kid…

We love movies that pit good against evil. We love to see impending peril overcome by a knight in shining armor. Why is that?  

Because sometimes life  is one big, epic battle of Good vs Evil.

We fight temptation all day long. Not just the big stuff. The everyday stuff;  the stuff we say that we wished we  hadn’t, the stuff we think that we wish we wouldn’t, our attitudes, our feelings and our -largely selfish- desires.

Succumbing to temptaion, back in the day,  became spiritual death to all. The destruction and mayhem it caused (and continues to cause) was and  is, nearly unceasing.  

Then Jesus arrived on the scene,  not unlike a knight  in shining armor.   And he battles death and sin and difficulty in us, with us, and through us daily.  By the minute, really.  The good guy is on our side!

Not only that, his spirit within us guides, protects, consoles,  strengthens, encourages and empowers us! It’s a package deal that is really too good to pass up.

         In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind.  The light  shines  in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it. Jn 1:4-5

Remember as a child how scary darkness was? When the power went out, there was a panic, a fear.  A single lightbulb, flashlight or candle could mean all the difference.

Jesus Is that light in the midst of our pain, our confusion, our hopelessness and our fear.

Jesus is sometimes spoken of as the light at the end of the tunnel, but I prefer to think of him as the track lighting on the road In  the tunnel. He never leaves you , never forsakes you.

His light shines on while you are walking through the valley of your challenges. He’s not just waiting at the end of it all. He never leaves us nor forsakes us.  He’s there, waiting for us to reach out to him.

      You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. Jer 29:13

He is already there!

We just need to begin to search.  His light is shining.  Burning bright. He has already chosen us.  He’s already chosen You.

He is just waiting for you to choose him back.

Thanksgiving Afterglow: How Giving = Getting

My husband and I delivered Thanksgiving baskets through our church a couple of weeks ago and, though we are of course aware that there is need all around us, even close to home, it is still somewhat startling to witness it first hand.  It makes you even more grateful for all that God has blessed you with. So, here’s an addendum to my previous gratitude list:

  • Thank you Kensington Church ( for the opportunity to serve.  I am grateful that we are in a situation to help and I am doubly grateful that they provided the opportunity.
  • I’m even more thankful that 3 years ago we were awakened to the fact that there is something greater that we are all called to do, something greater than just live our lives and be good and decent people, but that we can mobilize and we can help, and we are called by God to do so.  There are literally hundreds of things that you can do to help someone, somewhere in a small or a big way this holiday season.


Giving Equals Getting

Andy Stanley, pastor of Northpoint Church in Atlanta  talks in a recent sermon called “Be Rich” about how we are called to serve others and how it enriches our lives more than money ever can. If you want to check out the sermon visit  go to Be Rich series, message #3 ‘Love’.

There is also a fun ‘wheel of ideas’ that you can spin at , click on ‘Get Ideas’.  It’s  super motivating and gives dozens of suggestions on how  you can help. It’s really great for families. Some ideas cost nothing some  cost a small amount…but just wonderful ways to get involved with your friends, your neighbors, your family, people in your community, school, church, and even people you don’t know yet.  I urge you to check it out. There is no better feeling than doing for someone else.

I read somewhere that there is no such thing as true altruism. You know, giving and doing for others for a purely generous purpose, with no payback in mind. And maybe that’s true because when you give, you do get so much more in return…gratitude, peace, joy, compassion. The act of doing something for others usually makes the giver happier than the receiver.

And finally:

  • I’m thankful for my new-found faith. Jesus isn’t just the ‘reason for the season’. Jesus is the reason for everything, if you’re a believer.  And I’m grateful to have come to that. I’m grateful for the circumstances that have brought me to a situation where I began to explore my faith. And I’m grateful that Jesus is walking with me every single day and that I never need to fear because he will never leave us nor forsake us.

God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”  Hebrews 13:5



Welcome to the Re-Launch of My Blog




Thanks for stopping by!

Please scan my recent posts and take a look around the website. I am still making improvements as I continue to learn about the technology end of things.

Come back next month, when I will add a new page entitled ‘Scripture Study’ where we can discuss passages from the Bible. I will give you my take, and I hope you will join the conversation and let me know what you think as well.

In the near future, I will begin to write about  my journey to faith. It is a very personal story, as it is for most people, but I hope you will join me, and maybe share your story as well.

Please give me your feedback in the Comments section, I really want to know what you think!  The Comment box  can be found at the end of each entry, if you first click on ‘Posts’ and then on one of the titles. (Doesn’t work from the home page, still troubleshooting  this).

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Thanks again for visiting and I hope you’ll come back soon!



Giving Thanks


It wouldn’t be Thanksgiving without a gratitude list!

Here’s mine:

  • I’m thankful for Michigan’s beautiful seasons. Fall is my favorite and I never tire of the beautiful display of color from Labor Day to Thanksgiving!
  • I’m thankful for open discussion and frank conversation, and the ability to do both without fear of governmental reprisal.
  • I’m thankful for the peaceful protestors, the respectful dissenters. And I’m thankful that every 4 years we get another chance to voice our opinion and make that opinion count. Our opinions matter – every one of us.
  • I’m thankful for intelligent conversation, between family and friends, and for those who have not resorted to name-calling, backbiting and insults… 
  • BUT – I’m thankful to live in a country where even when people do resort to unsavory rhetoric, there is no fear of retribution, we are free to air our viewpoint even if we don’t always do it eloquently.  I’m grateful for those who can disagree peaceably and respectfully and without damaging relationships and friendships.
  • I’m thankful for family,  gathering this week. For food on the table and the resources that provide it  all – and so much more.
  • I’m thankful for  farmers who provide us all the good, healthy food we can eat. They are the backbone of this country – where would we be without them?
  • I’m thankful for our military; the fact that they put their lives on the line,  and their families’ lives on hold. Too many make the ultimate sacrifice  for our safety, for our freedom, and for freedom of people around the world.  There is no greater gift than that.
  • I’m thankful for people whose word still means something. People of integrity, who do their job and honor their commitment like it’s the most important thing on earth. From teachers to health care workers to the kid who bags your groceries and the handyman who shows up when he says he will.  It always touches me when someone does a really good job and  takes real pride in giving you the best service they can.
  • And I’m thankful that we can worship God freely and without fear. Anytime, anywhere, any religion we choose. It’s a pretty awesome privilege, if you think about it.

I urge you to find something to be grateful for this week. And to thank God for it.  No matter how bleak things may seem, there is always something to appreciate!

Give thanks to the Lord for he is good, his love endures forever. Ps 107:1

At the risk of sounding cliche, life  really is  10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it.

Happy Thanksgiving!


What’s at the top of your gratitude list?




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